After my parents (finally) admitted they’re uncomfortable with my queerness, my queer relationship, and well, queer people in general, most of my friends think I should go ‘no contact’ with them. I feel like I’m at odds with two different versions of myself: one that was raised in the West and believes that love should be earned and one that was raised in a family with Eastern values that honor collectivism and filial piety.
all i see is they admitted they are "uncomfortable." they were honest and dont sound attacking. why go no-contact with someone like that? they made no demands or ultimatums. they dont have to agree with all your decisions in order to be in your life. your friends prob largely have bad family dynamics, and for them to see you separate from yours, would make them feel less alone in their own issues. but its not necessarily in YOUR best interest. agree to disagree and love your family, and YES, boundaries as needed, but no-contact sounds extreme in this case.
all i see is they admitted they are "uncomfortable." they were honest and dont sound attacking. why go no-contact with someone like that? they made no demands or ultimatums. they dont have to agree with all your decisions in order to be in your life. your friends prob largely have bad family dynamics, and for them to see you separate from yours, would make them feel less alone in their own issues. but its not necessarily in YOUR best interest. agree to disagree and love your family, and YES, boundaries as needed, but no-contact sounds extreme in this case.