For a year, I worked on not being such a doormat. It worked! I feel more opinionated and confident. But I've been hearing from friends and family that I've gotten too "irritable." It makes me miss my old personality even though some aspects of it made me unhappy...
I'm here to APPLAUD your soapbox moment and second your overall response. Boundaries (and surrounding yourself with people who respect them) are important.
Stopping people from harming you (in this example by promoting diet culture) is hard and important work.
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I’ve been struggling to be less of a people pleaser for years now. Something I repeat to myself is that if someone has a problem with me or anything I do that isn’t harming another person, they can either deal with it or leave and it’s helped me so much with my self worth. It’s hard to leave friends behind and better yourself but it is soo worth it, i wish you luck with your journey :)
Love this piece. Best line: But let’s not forget about the people who have flocked toward this more assured version of you. How can you grow with them and meet more folks that make you feel seen?
I stopped reading as soon as I encountered the phrase "women identify folks." You lost all creditability right there. Seriously, stop the bullshit! You are either born a woman or you are not!
I do not care. If you are changing it is going to be for a positive change. You can measure all friends versus enemy-forevers by whether or not they support you when you change - enough to allow time for they to question you or challenge you.
Honestly, This was written really well. I applaud you for being so upfront and honest in your journey. It takes strength to grow and change into a better you.
thank you for sharing.