This hits very close to home as we ache for a friend who is once again hospitalized for ED. It’s the third time and it’s tiresome to see no progress. College dreams now on hold for her. A life of hospitalizations isn’t a life. The ache. I told her mom I can’t support her kid right now. I don’t have any tea at the moment. I hope I get some back … but I’m not sure.
It is a personal decision. If you care for that friend as a family member, you are there for them even from a distance depending on the internal resources you have and what is going on in your life.
this popped up in my feed at the exact right time, a coworker/friend is putting her self harm on display to me and everyone at work and i think her and our other coworker/friend are starting to consider me as their therapist friend and latching on to me in that way but she doesn’t realize that when she comes into work with fresh self harm cuts it triggers something in me and i go home having a panic attack. after a little over a year of being in therapy and working on myself and making progress, i don’t want it all to come crumbling down. i want to be there for them but it’s like does it have to be at my own expense?
this reminds me of a conversation my friends & i had a while ago about "feelings/trauma dumping". we were talking about keeping secrets slash feeling like we were dumping feelings on a friend by sharing them. whilst one was feeling the former way, getting upset that you're friends, but you're not communicating, not sharing enough, the other was feeling the latter way, dealing independently w their shit for the fear of "dumping" on a friend if they shared the "lot" they were going thru. both sides r relevant, and w time, sharing CAN feel like dumping, it's almost inevitable i feel so I can't even blame anyone for feeling tired and wanting to let go. it's sad, life's complicated like that, but fr, sometimes u really need to always think of yourself. its u first before anything or anyone else. sigh. I've always said this: mental illness is a deadly and horrible thing, it drowns you into the darkest hole, and takes everyone around u w it.
This hits very close to home as we ache for a friend who is once again hospitalized for ED. It’s the third time and it’s tiresome to see no progress. College dreams now on hold for her. A life of hospitalizations isn’t a life. The ache. I told her mom I can’t support her kid right now. I don’t have any tea at the moment. I hope I get some back … but I’m not sure.
absolutely incredible piece, thank you for this!
Thank you for reading 🥹
It is a personal decision. If you care for that friend as a family member, you are there for them even from a distance depending on the internal resources you have and what is going on in your life.
this popped up in my feed at the exact right time, a coworker/friend is putting her self harm on display to me and everyone at work and i think her and our other coworker/friend are starting to consider me as their therapist friend and latching on to me in that way but she doesn’t realize that when she comes into work with fresh self harm cuts it triggers something in me and i go home having a panic attack. after a little over a year of being in therapy and working on myself and making progress, i don’t want it all to come crumbling down. i want to be there for them but it’s like does it have to be at my own expense?
this reminds me of a conversation my friends & i had a while ago about "feelings/trauma dumping". we were talking about keeping secrets slash feeling like we were dumping feelings on a friend by sharing them. whilst one was feeling the former way, getting upset that you're friends, but you're not communicating, not sharing enough, the other was feeling the latter way, dealing independently w their shit for the fear of "dumping" on a friend if they shared the "lot" they were going thru. both sides r relevant, and w time, sharing CAN feel like dumping, it's almost inevitable i feel so I can't even blame anyone for feeling tired and wanting to let go. it's sad, life's complicated like that, but fr, sometimes u really need to always think of yourself. its u first before anything or anyone else. sigh. I've always said this: mental illness is a deadly and horrible thing, it drowns you into the darkest hole, and takes everyone around u w it.